Acceptance: Free your Mindfulness.
Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery.
― J.K. Rowling.
Acceptance: This does not mean choosing, wanting, liking, or supporting.
It doesn’t mean that what you’ve chosen is what you’re accepting. It doesn’t mean you can choose your anxieties and happiness. It’s life and anything can happen here and it will come to you accordingly.
Preferably, you’re choosing to allow it to be there when you can’t change it at that moment. To make room for it. To give yourself permission to be as you are, to feel what you feel, or have experienced what you’ve experienced — without creating unproductive shame or anxiety. The pain might still be there, but some of the sufferings will be diminished.
Acceptance is an active process. It must be practiced.
Remember that accept is a verb. Acceptance is human psychology and it’s an active process, one that must be practiced consciously.
We the humans rarely choose to accept our emotional and physical pain, as in our bodies, our relationships. Our past gives us pain and we deny to accept reality.
Every time, something new comes into our life that may be irritating, frustrating at times. And we walk over it many times, sometimes we accept, sometimes we deny to accept. We accept that we strengthen our pathways and feel at ease to overcome.
It’s natural to hesitate back and forth between feelings of acceptance and feelings of resistance. If we start understanding both, then we can notice our inner self and get quieter because we start accepting.
It’s going to be that way forever?
Sometimes we think ‘It’s going to be that way forever’. No, it all depends on life, situations, experiences.
Some of us have some different relationships with our parents and siblings, like what it should be. But it doesn’t mean that anger and fighting with them is forever. It’s for some time and we get through it.
You should try to focus your acceptance on the present, alongside an open and realistic gaze at the future. Focusing too much on the present can be counterproductive, as a large part of acceptance involves letting go of the desire that things will change—detaching from the hope that, in some cases, creates suffering.
Sometimes practicing acceptance and finding a sweet spot in the relationships can make things better and can make things better for the future.
You know some part of the real beauty of life is that it’s unpredictable.
Nothing is permanent, everything changes; and of course, a lot of things can happen that will transform who you are and have an impact on your life.
The problem is that we need to dig the ability to truly accept whatever comes and embrace it. We need to develop the habit of looking at whatever happens through a positive mindset instead of a negative, pessimistic one.
Just find happiness in everything you do and accept it.
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